Happy holidays! I hope you have found some joy and merriment in the last few weeks of a heavy year. It’s nearly 2021, which I think we all looking forward to!
The new year always brings new opportunities, new hope and new determination for positive change.
And that of course includes for your love life.
I’m committing to helping over a 1,000 women change their love lives for the better this year. So I thought I’d start with some new dating mantras to lead your love life with in 2021.
I’ll be chatting about these some more on my Instagram stories, so make sure you give me a follow if you’re not already.
I will appreciate my worth
You are amazing. You may not always feel it, but you are. You have so much to offer someone in a relationship. It may be your kindness, your humour, your intelligence or your thoughtfulness. As well as so many other things.
Having a series of failed experiences/relationships can lead you to question what is wrong with you. And the answer is nothing. It’s time you focused on all the good things abouts you and what you can offer a relationship.
Let’s start right now: list out 5 qualities about yourself that make you worthy of a great relationship
I will not settle for less
Now you know how amazing you are, reflect on your choices. Have you been giving opportunities to guys who are simply not worthy of what you have to give?
The relationship you want is the relationship you deserve. And the relationship you can get.
But every time you settle for less, or even consider settling for less, you’re giving out the vibes that you only deserve less.
You must be firm in your choices and walk away from anyone who is not prepared to give you what you want.
Let’s start right now: list 5 qualities that are a “must have” in the relationship you want
I will branch out
One of my favourite quotes of all time is ‘madness is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results’.
If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.
Ways you can meet different men:
Attending events and activities in person
Trying different apps/dating sites/matchmaking
Change your age ranges
Look for qualities in men’s bios, rather than just looks
Ask your friends
Let’s start right now: what is one way that you could approach finding a guy differently?
I will know myself
It’s impossible to attract and create a healthy relationship if you don’t know yourself at a deeper level.
What drives you? What triggers you? What is most important to you? What is in your life that doesn’t need to be? What do you want out of a relationship? What emotions have you not dealt with?
This is a huge topic and there are many, many books on the topic. Pick one and start to really get to know yourself. Then you’ll be able to get clear on the relationship you need to feel your best.
Let’s start right now: if money wasn’t a factor, what would be your ideal life in five years time?
I will do more of what I love
The more you do the things you love, the more you light up as a person. These things energise you, make you feel good and attract in more of what you love.
It sounds so simple, but so many of us do not incorporate the things we love into our lives on a regular basis. Don’t save them for weekends or holidays, do as much as you can.
When you’re doing what you love, it has two great effects on your love life. 1) you may meet the man of your dreams when doing it; and 2) you will become more attractive as you start loving your life more.
Let’s start right now: what are three things you loved doing as a child? Which of these can you starting doing now?
I will get clear on what matters
We carry around so many voices in our head that tell us what we should be doing, thinking or feeling. These can completely overshadow what is important to us as an individual.
You may think you need a guy who is financially wealthy, has a good job or owns a house. But in fact none of this matters to you as much as someone who is there for you when you need them, is kind and is a good listener.
Get clear on the little day to day things you want from a relationship and start looking for those when you go dating, rather than focusing on things that don’t matter.
Let’s start right now: what is one quality you want a guy to bring to a relationship daily?